Is everything ok with you and your boyfriend? How much do you really know about him? Why don’t you do yourself a favor and get a confidential background check done on him before your relationship goes any further. A simple and easy to do online background check can quickly show you if there are any available public records on him. You might find criminal records or arrest warrants or worse but more likely you will find that your boyfriend is exactly what he seems to be and there are no bad things to find. This will put your mind at rest.

First steps in checking out your boyfriend

Before you rush to a private investigator or an online public records database you should do a little probing of your boyfriend by asking him some questions. Ask him about anything you can think of like where does he live, how long has he lived there, where did he live before, where does he work, how long has he worked there etc.

Be subtle in your questioning and be interested in what he has to say. It will make it easier for him to talk if he doesn’t feel as if he’s been interrogated.

Talk to his friends and family too and make mental notes of what they tell you. Look for any inconsistencies in the stories that they all tell you. If your boyfriend is being open and truthful with you then there won’t be any inconsistencies.

The traditional method – Hire a private detective

The traditional way to get a background check done on someone is to hire a private detective (PI) to dig up the information for you. This is an effective method and if you use a good PI they can be very thorough with their investigations.

Hiring a private detective can be very expensive because you are paying for the PI’s time to do the work for you. You will also have the same expense the next time you want to check someone out.

Do background checks yourself using online public records databases

If you can’t afford to employ someone to do all your background checks for you how about using online background check web sites instead. There is a huge amount of information freely available to you in public records if you know where to go and how to access it.

Once you have the information you can compare it with the story that your boyfriend told you. If it matches and your background searches didn’t find any criminal records, arrest warrants, bankruptcies or anything else that might be a problem then you are good to go.

I’m going to give you 4 simple ways to answer the “how do I find out if someone is married” question. They are all effective but if you want to get some answers quickly or you want to verify what your feelings are telling you then go straight to the “marriage detector 4” method below.

Or don’t waste another minute – start your search for marriage records right now

New relationships are great aren’t they? It’s exciting and fresh. The feeling that you get with that first kiss is so incredibly good that you want it to last forever. You get so emotionally invested in your new lover that you exclude everything else. Very often that means throwing caution to the wind and diving straight in with both feet without a care for the consequences.

Well what if this new lover of yours has a criminal record or is married? I’m going to urge you now to think about that while I give you a few simple ways that you can use to find out if someone is married.

Marriage detector 1: Ask his or her friends

If you have mutual friends then this is a simple enough thing to do. Most people will be honest with you if they think that you might be putting yourself in the way of any potential hurt so it does no harm to ask. If you don’t have any mutual friends to begin with then make a point of arranging a get-together of some kind with your friends and his. If you want to get serious with someone then it makes a lot of sense to start getting to know each others circle of friends.

Marriage detector 2: Ask your new boyfriend or girlfriend if they are married

This is even easier than the first one but you might not have asked the question because you just assume that your date is single right? Well go ahead and ask it. Come straight out with it and ask “Are you married”

If he’s married and being honest then he will tell you but he may just give the the “No of course not…” answer. If this is the case then you need to pay close attention to the way he says it. If it’s said without eye contact or your date looks a little uneasy or shifty then you might have cause for concern.

Marriage detector 3: Use the human lie detector test

Don’t worry – I don’t mean that you should insist on hooking your date up to a polygraph machine. You can so a simple lie detection test yourself. It takes a bit longer to get results but it can be just as effective.

This is something that needs to be done over a period of time but it is simple and straightforward when you use the system. All you have to do is ask questions. Simple questions like where do you live, where do you work? what is your telephone number? where were you born? how old are you? All the sorts of things that you would be talking about anyway right?

The trick is in remembering the answers that you are given. Write them down when you are alone if you need to. Then over the course of the next few dates, meetings and online chats that you have, make sure that you ask the same questions but in a slightly different way – What’s your address? what do you do for a living? What’s your phone number again? Where did you grow up? What’s your date of birth.

Now you can compare these answers with the answers you got previously. If they don’t match then ask why. You see, you have to be a very good liar to give the same consistent answers over a long time period of time because it’s hard to remember what the lies were if they aren’t actually true. If you don’t get satisfactory answers to any inconsistencies then start getting just a little bit worried.

Marriage detector 4: Do a background check using free public records

If you want a fast answer to whether your date is married or not then just do a background check on him or her using a public records web site. You can find out not only if someone is married but also if they have criminal records or arrest warrants or have been made bankrupt. In fact you can find out a great deal of information about practically anyone using such web sites.

Do it right now. Use my other methods too because they can be fun but don’t miss out on doing an online background check on anyone you date or deal with.

Are you wondering whether you’ve made the right choice with your latest boyfriend or girlfriend? How do you know if they’re telling you the truth or not, especially about being married?

Even if it doesn’t bother you that your new love is cheating on someone to be with you I think that you deserve to know exactly what the situation is. After all, if they can lie to you about their married status then they can lie to you about anything can’t they? Find out if someone is married now before things start to get serious.

It’s never been easier for you to access the same awesome databases that are used by government law enforcement agencies. You can do background checks on just about anyone you want including yourself. It’s so easy that even I can do it so I know that you can.

Ask him or her if they are married or not

It might sound obvious but a lot of people would not do this. Simply ask them if they are married or divorced. You can also ask them if they are in a relationship, not necessarily married. If they are honest they will tell you the truth and the skeletons can be thrown out of the closet. But how do you know that they are being honest with you?

Listen carefully to what he or she tells you and look for things that don’t add up. It’s very difficult to keep a complicated lie going and it’s easy to make mistakes. Does his story make sense? Does he go away on mysterious business trips without giving details etc? You only need to catch him out with one lie to cast doubt on everything else he tells you. If this happens then you should confront him immediately. Walk away if you don’t get a good answer.

Do some detective work

If you have an idea of the area where someone might have been married then you can contact to the local records offices in that area and ask for marriage records. But what if you don’t know where they came from? Or you can’t trust what you’ve been told? Even if you do there’s no guarantee that he was married there. So how do you find out if someone is married when you don’t even know where they come from?

The easy way to find out if someone is married

Until very recently searching for information such as marriage records was reserved solely for the law enforcement agencies. Through the awsome power of the Internet these same databases are now available to everyone and made easily accessible through very affordable software. Not only can you find out whether they are married but whether they have a criminal record or have been arrested, when and where they were born, whether they have been declared bankrupt and many, many other background checks. A small investment to gain access to all this information can save you from making a big mistake.

It can be safe to find dates on the Internet but you must be careful

Do you have the time to go clubbing, hang around in bars and join loads of activities just in case you’ll find Mr Right? No not many people do today. Life is such a busy place and you have to find faster ways of doing things. The Internet provides quick and efficient ways of doing so many things and dating is one of them. Everyone is doing it and even I managed to find a soulmate this way.

So after a few short evenings of searching online Angelina met George. They got on really well and after they had spent a few weeks chatting to each other in email and messenger they decided to meet in real life. Angelina had purposely searched for someone local to make this stage easier. It’s no good finding a soulmate if they are too far away to visit now is it?

Their first date

Angelina and George followed all the rules of safe dating for the first few times that they met. They met in a public place in broad daylight and always made sure that someone knew where they were going. Angelina is very sensible and knows the importance of staying safe.

George swept Angelina off her feet every time they met and she fell madly in love with him. She was so happy a few months later when he asked her to marry her so they set an early date for the wedding.

A simple background check could avoid embarrassment at the wedding

A few short months later Angelina looked stunning in her wedding dress. She glowed with excitement and thought that this was going to be the happiest day of her life.

Angelina had never been more wrong about anything. You see George never turned up at the wedding and all the excitement and happiness that Angelina had felt turned to hate and bitterness, not to mention the embarrassment of being stood up at your wedding with a hundred or more guests. Oh yes and the huge expense of the wedding itself.

George had active arrest warrants and had been apprehended by the police

George had climbed into the wedding car that day but he never got to the wedding because the cops had stopped and arrested him. Angelina had no idea that he had several arrest warrants out on him, one was for skipping bail on a sex offender charge!

How could Angelina have found out if he had arrest warrants

Angelina could have avoided this embarrassing conclusion to the relationship if only she had done a simple online background check on George when they first met. It’s so easy to do and it could have turned up all the arrest warrants, criminal records and marriage records on George. Yes he might have been married, you never know do you?

This is a story that I made up to illustrate a very real problem that affects thousands of people every day. How do you know that new friends and other people that you come in contact with are actually who they say they are and that they aren’t hiding something from you.

Find out if he has arrest warrants now before you get serious

Angelena had a narrow escape. Have fun when you date but don’t you get caught out like she did.